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Wednesday 22 June 2016
HELP PROTECT OUR CHILDREN!!!
by Rita Oziegbe
It seems having carnal knowledge
of little children has become the order of the day. The devil has taken toll of
the heart of men, when I say MEN, I don’t necessarily mean MALES but both male
and female alike. There are a lot of evil going on in our days, but do we allow
the children live with them without our protection and guidance?..... I guess
your answer is as good as mine… hell NO!!!
You may want to deny the fact that these things happen or reject the
possibility of it happening to your child but the truth remains that THEY
HAPPEN! Now don’t be blinded to think that it only happens to female children,
even the boys get sexually abused too….. Surprised?... Don’t be.
For those of us who think sexual
abuse only has to do with penetration with penis , fingers or objects, we are wrong because it involves
a whole others such as;
Exposing sexual materials or
genitals to a child
Touching/ kissing/fondling of
genitals and other areas of the body.
Asking a child to touch their own
genitals or another person’s.
Talking explicitly, graphically,
inappropriately, graphically about sex to a child.
Forced and non- forced sex with
an under-aged child.
With all these, how then do we
protect them from being vulnerable?... We
begin by not feeding them with lies or myths about sexual abuses. I say this
because many parents in trying to deny the reality of these things happening or
in their confusion on how to present it to the children, tend to paint the
wrong picture to their children. They forget that if they do not tell the
children the real truth about the subject, outsiders would and maybe the wrong
side of it all. Some believe teaching children about sexual abuses scare them,
therefore they think it is best to go mute about it. This is also wrong as the
better informed our children are about the happenings around them, the better
prepared and protected they are.
Don’t make your children believe
that these things happen in only families with problems or broken homes and
that they are safe because your own family is a “normal one”, therefore such
can’t happen to them. If they are safe within does that imply that they are
also safe outside your home. Remember many of the reported cases are perpetrated
by members of the family or relatives. It could be their uncles, aunts,
brothers, sisters, cousins and even by their parents. Make them also to understand that not only
girls can be abused. Yes, as strange as it might sound, boys can be abused too.
Make efforts to teach your sons how to protect themselves also. And it is not
only men that abuse or rape children because women are also being used as the
devil’s instrument in this case. Do not fool them by saying it is only improperly
dressed girls get abused because even those in flowing gowns are abused too.
Teach your children the right
name for their body part even if it is their private parts else someone will
teach them and also touch it for them. Let them know the difference between “safe”,”
unsafe” and “unwanted” touch and no matter who does the touching, they should
be able to say a big NO when it is unsafe and unwanted. They should also say
the NO when they are asked to involve in any kind of sexual activity without
fear or favour. Build a good
relationship with your children as this will help them in telling you anything
without keeping secrets. Watch out for danger signs in adult and those that
your children might be giving you indirectly about an adult or anyone around
them. Control their access to the internet and other media usage as this would
help you keep a check on the kind of thing that they are exposed to. At the worst cases, they should scream for help,
run and tell anyone that can help.
Friday 10 June 2016
“OURS TO PLOUGH AND NOT TO PLUNDER”
by Rita Oziegbe
“This earth is
Ours to work not to waste
Ours to man not to main
This earth is ours to plough, not to plunder”
Ours to work not to waste
Ours to man not to main
This earth is ours to plough, not to plunder”
This very last verse of Niyi Osundare’s poem “Ours to plough and not to
plunder” during my secondary school days kept ringing in my head as I rode to
work thinking of my beloved country, its many riches and the irony of what it
has become today. Mother Earth is forced to drink the blood of her children,
her beautiful clothes of rich green grasses and trees of various kinds with
sweet smelling flowers has turned into rags from oil spills, refuse dumps,
decomposing corpse, flood and the numerous destruction from the various bombing
activities of different groups.
Why do we bring so much shame to her, why do we turn ourselves who are
her children into instruments of her pain. Even God himself weeps at the sight
of what she has become. Nigeria, we used to be Africa’s pride, her giant, her
beauty, her glory…… Where are these now... All of them, we have traded and for
what? Greed, pride and covetousness. Our home land which is supposed to provide
refuge and succor has turned into large mouths of scary pits that swallow us. Did
I hear you ask “where are the elders?”……. Of course we have them, but they
themselves are the reason for our downfall. They were to lead us to greatness
but instead they lead us to perdition, they were to guide us but they seem
confused themselves, they were to care for us but they neglect us, caring for
themselves and their pockets. The youths they say are the leaders of tomorrow
but they have turned us into thugs, thieves, assassins and all sorts of evil
machineries.
God have mercy! For our beloved land weeps, she begs for restoration of
all her lost glories, she begs us to put a smile back on her face. Stop the killing
for the lives we have lost can never be regained. Stop the oil spills for
Mother Earth longs to be adorned once again with flowers and rich vegetation.
Stop the bombing for it is taking us no where rather we are retrogressing as a
nation. STOP! STOP!! STOP!!!........ THIS EARTH IS OURS TO PLOUGH AND NOT TO
PLUNDER!!!!
Wednesday 1 June 2016
PARENTAL INVOLVEMENT IN CHILDREN'S EDUCATION
by Rita Oziegbe
Being a parent, makes you the child’s first and most important teacher.
The importance of the involvement of parents, family and care takers in
children’s education cannot be overemphasized as the children do better,
achieve more in school and feel better about their schooling. When we talk
about parent’s involvement, we don’t just mean the paying of their school fees,
buying of their school materials, participating in school meetings and raising
funds for the school, it involves the active engagement with the child’s
learning at home and at school.
No thanks to the global economic meltdown with everyone trying to make
ends meet, both parents leave home very early in the morning and come home
almost when the children are asleep, tired out and going straight to bed only
to continue the same cycle the next day. During the weekends that parents
should spend time with their children, they find themselves involved in other
activities such as town meetings, club meeting and religious gatherings. Not
that these are bad in themselves but that the future of those whom we claim to
be doing them for, is sacrificed. With these, it is clear that more is expected
of the parents if we are to be actively engaged in the children’s learning.
How then do we get started?...
The following are some helpful tips;
Create a form of partnership with your child’s teachers and school
staff. Meet your child’s teacher and make it known that you are interested in
helping your child learn, find out the areas your child is having problems and
discuss how it can be solved. Let the teacher know that he/she is free to get
in touch with you should your child develop any other problem. Get to know
other people who help in your child’s learning
since there are many other people involve in the day to day running f
the school activities and be able to control how they affect your child’s
learning. If the English language they use in school is what scares you, then
you can get an interpreter while you use your local language or one you are comfortable
with to communicate your concerns.
Don’t just leave the rest to the teacher but take a step further by
supporting your child’s learning at home. Make out time to help with their
homework or other school related activities, don’t do their homework for them
for it will not help them on the long run, encourage them to use the media effectively, discuss
educational issues with the child, talk with the child and find out his/her areas
of difficulties and offer help in terms of advice on how these difficulties can
be addressed, encourage them to read and use the library but you can make it
more fun by participating in some reading exercises with them. Monitor the
child’s usage of the television, video games and the internet and above all;
demonstrate a strong positive attitude about education to your children because
they look up to you as a role model.
Engage in a kind of follow up on your child’s performance in school, get
special services if your child needs one, help the child prepare for test and
examinations and get to review the child’s report card each time it comes out. Your
not being learned is not an excuse, you can involve other family members who
are educated or get help from educated people around you. Ensure that your
children attend school regularly as this also help in their performance. All
these and more might seem tasking but WORTHWHILE. May God bless all the efforts
we make towards our children’s success in life.
Thursday 19 May 2016
SKIN BLEACHING.......
by Rita Oziegbe
Growing up as a child, I disliked
a neighbor who had a young wife. My reason was because he was a bad man to have
hit his wife in the face so hard as to give her those dark patches by the side
of both eyes that wouldn’t just go. I remember those patches now as an adult as
I see them on other faces…don’t think I am naive as to think that they were
also caused by the beatings these individuals have received. I was a child
then, now I know better that those big dark patches are the effects of the
constant use of bleaching creams. Sometimes I begin to wonder if aliens have
not invaded our earth because we now have a lot of people with a rainbow skin:-
white face with dark patches, red, yellow, green, purple, blue veins all
visible on their body and especially on their faces.
Now let’s see; what is skin
beaching, what are some of its effect and the contents we should look out for
when we go out there to buy body creams/lotions? Skin bleaching is the practice
of using chemicals substances in order to lighten skin tone or produce an even
skin complexion by reducing the melanin concentration in the skin. What is
melanin, you say?... Melanin is a substance in the skin that causes
pigmentation. It helps in the absorption of some of the dangerous ultraviolet
radiation (UV) in sunlight. It also has DNA repair enzymes that helps in
reversing UV damage, therefore people who lack the genes for these enzymes
suffer very high rate of skin cancer.
Many people tend to forget or may
not know that the skin is the largest organ in human system and plays an
important role in protecting the body against pathogens and excess loss of
water. Other functions include; insulation, temperature regulation, synthesis
of vitamin D, the protection of vitamin B foliate and sensation. In their
desire to look like the whites who in many ways want to look like them by
tanning, they damage their skin by using all sorts of chemical, some even go as
far as mixing hair relaxers and hypo bleach into their body creams. Don’t scream, it’s the
truth... Everyone wants to look like “oyibo” forgetting that as Africans, God
in His wisdom knows what He is doing. We want to outsmart Him, but we surely
will pay the price.
The effects of skin bleaching are dangerous and cannot be overlooked. For
those of us who still want to look the way God made us and not like ghosts, do
not buy any body cream containing hydroquinone and if you must use them, it
should not be above 2%. Also look out for arbutin which is a natural source of
the later, kojic acid which scientist say may have carcinogenic properties in
large doses and causes allergic contact dermatitis, mercury, ellagic acid,
ferulic acid, licorice extract and certain fruit extract that bleaches the
skin. In a nutshell dear friends, stay NATURAL, stay BEAUTIFUL, stay HEALTHY and
stay ALIVE!!!
source(Wikipedia)
Tuesday 17 May 2016
YOU IGNORE, YOUR BAD....
YOU IGNORE , YOUR BAD..
It’s no news that the climate is
changing. There are seasonal shifts as the dry and raining season don’t come as
at when we usually expect them. When they finally do, the intensity is
alarming. The sun is so hot these days that you feel its rays sting you on the
skin. Even the early morning sun which doctors say is healthy, am afraid might
no longer be. When it does rain, my goodness!........ everywhere becomes
flooded and refuses to dry up. Findings shows that the world has warmed by 0.8
degree Celsius since pre-industrial times and recently scientists carrying out
research on global warming have predicted that average global temperatures could
increase between 1.4 and 5.8 degree Celsius by the year 2100. Isn’t that scary???...........
The horror is not just the
harshness of the sun on our skin and subsequent damages but the fact that it
would have major and unpredictable effects on the world’s water systems, there
would be severe weather events and extreme weather conditions which would
adversely affect farming and agriculture; a source of food supply and
livelihood for more than half of the global population. I wonder how we would
survive by then. To think that almost everyone in Naija has “ I beta pass my
neighbor” (generator set) which produces fumes as dark as those we see in
movies when the devil wants to appear and we are busy cutting down every little
plant/tree all in the name of clearing and space hunting for buildings, yet we
do nothing to correct the situation.
It is not enough buying / applying all the
creams with sunscreen, sun umbrella, sun canopy and what have you………..lols……..
Let’s get busy planting trees, reduce our rate of generator usage; of course
that would be when the government does something about the power sector to
improve the mass electrical consumption and if you can afford it, get other
sources of generating electricity.
Wednesday 11 May 2016
YOU NEED THESE!
by Rita Oziegbe
A tree cannot make a forest they say because the beauty of
the forest lies in the varieties of the plants and how they co-exist. In the
same vein, an individual cannot make a family, an organization or a society.
The ability to work together towards the achievement of a common goal as a
people can never be ruled out in human existence neither can its effect be
ignored in our daily lives. This could be attributed to the possession of
certain skills by humans and one of such is the SOFT SKILLS. One would begin to
wonder, “What are soft skills?”…….. Don’t get so curious, I’ll tell you.
Soft skills are characters, traits, and interpersonal skills
that characterize a person’s relationship with others. They are the abilities
to recognize and manage our own and other’s emotions. It also includes how we organize
and how we approach life. Did I hear you say “What has it got to do with
family, organization and the society?”…………… Of course it does have a lot to do
with these units, every family unit has a common interest and goal/s and so
does every organizational workplace, groups and society. Each unit is made up
of more than one individual and each individual have their own emotions. The
ability to manage your own emotion as a part of the unit and that of the other
members will go a long way to determine the success of one’s family, the organization
in which you work and the society you belong.
Now what are some of these soft skills? They include;
communication skills, teamwork and collaboration, adaptability/flexibility,
problem solving, critical observation, conflict resolution, dependability,
personal habits, leadership traits, conscientiousness, creativity, self
motivation, accepting responsibility, optimism, commitment, coaching and
mentoring, sense of humour, good decision making, empathy, diplomacy and
respectfulness, common sense, good manners, time management and ability to work
under pressure, when to speak, listen and suggest a compromise and many more.
They are important because they are one’s unique selling
point and give you a competitive edge in the workplace, in the family and
perhaps in life. They are considered a complement to hard skills, which refer
to a person’s occupational skills and knowledge. You can simply put, they make
your hard skills glow. Although most of these skills are innate, some can be
learnt and boosted over time to give you an upper hand on a job/ promotion,
other areas of your life and in the society at large.
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